tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-292604186748554346.post8643796154452913266..comments2023-06-20T11:02:47.935-04:00Comments on Belle Noir Magazine | Big. Beautiful. You.: ‘Tis The Season To Have An Open MindAnonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07036060317719982127noreply@blogger.comBlogger1125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-292604186748554346.post-50741367457032458912011-12-01T19:24:45.944-05:002011-12-01T19:24:45.944-05:00Your words are very insightful. I commend you for ...Your words are very insightful. I commend you for self examining throughout the course of events that inspired you to write this article. So many people just point the finger of blame and blindly assume that if every relationship goes down the same road the others were to blame. <br /><br />I have to say that I agree with your processes, it's important to maintain a healthy yet realistic list of criteria. Keeping in mind that some criteria are superficial BUT, very hard to overlook. If certain body types are more appealing to you it is quite a task trying to change the way you think. Especially since these types of criteria stem from standards created a long time ago in our heads. Basically, I think we like what we like. A man who prefers a full figured woman would find it challenging to pursue thin women instead, and visa-versa. But one thing that we can change is being attracted to the same negative patterns when choosing who we will spend time with. I have had friends who find themselves in physically abusive relationships with numerous partners over the years. And if you put these men in a line up you would have a hard time telling them apart, not in looks, but mannerisms and personalities. <br /><br />Sometimes we ignore the red flags for one reason or another. The standards you set for yourself dictate what you will and will not accept. (when I say you , I mean single people in general) You know when the bar is set too high for anybody to jump over, and you certainly know when it's set so low that anything can crawl right through. <br /><br />I am a fond believer in this theory when it comes to seeking guidance in relationships...<br /><br />I say the people who are best suited to give a single person "food for thought" is a much older person (a senior) experience and lots of it has a better chance of steering you the right way than your best friend of less experience. <br /><br />Marcy, i love the way your article teaches us to examine all the evidence in order to figure out how did we get the same result, and what can be done different next time. Is there a right person? They may be right, and we may not be at that level yet when we meet them. Or they may not be at the level we have achieved (career, maturity, sacrifice, experience etc.) One thing we definitely can say is whoever we choose to have a relationship with, it will take work to maintain it. When they walk into your life they bring the baggage of decades with them, it takes time to sort it all out and find a happy medium. Taking care of yourself and loving yourself gives your future loved one a well rounded confident person to deal with and the relationship has a better chance of making it - - Great article Marcy, great Advice!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14449973135050813189noreply@blogger.com