Tuesday, April 24, 2012
The Scene: Full Figured Fashion Week™ 2012 Industry Awards
This week, Full Figured Fashion Week™ Executive Producer Gwen DeVoe announced this year's Industry Award honorees:
Plus Fashion Photographer of the Year- Stanley Debas
Plus Fashion Stylist of the Year - Spry Lee Scott
Plus Boutique of the Year - Curvaceous Boutique
Plus Lifestyle Magazine of the Year - POSE Magazine (Tiffany Jones and Renee Jennings)
Plus Model of the Year - Ashley Graham
Plus Designer of the Year -Jibri (Jasmine Elder)
Plus Retailer of the Year - Ashley Stewart
Plus Fashion Blog of the Year - The Curvy Fashionista (Marie Leggette)
Plus Model Agency of the Year - Dorothy Combs Models
Make-up Artist of the Year Award - Tara Taylor
Belle-Noir Magazine congratulates all of this year's honorees! We look forward to hearing your acceptance speeches at FFFWeek 2012!
The Frugal Files: Finding our Motivating Mantras
~Zig Ziglar
Friday, April 20, 2012
The Fear of Weight
Tuesday, April 17, 2012
The Frugal Files: Tax Day Freebies & Earth Day Challenges
Welcome back to The Frugal Files, with your lovely host, Frugalicious Diva!!
Friday, April 13, 2012
Dealing With The Worst Day of Your Life
Death leaves a heartache no one can heal, love leaves a memory no one can steal. ~ Anonymous
A year ago on April 10, 2011, I received the call that I never wanted to receive, one that I was not prepared for. My dad had a heart attack and he didn’t make it. I remember that call like it was yesterday. I was speechless at first. Then I said it could not be true. I had just spoken to him two hours before. But yes, it was true. Even a year later, it is hard for me to comprehend. I’m crying as I type this because the pain is still so fresh.
For me personally, this was especially tough because I had never lost anyone close to me before. I didn’t know how to deal with it. My dad was not only my father but my friend, my confidante and my hangout partner. For me, this was the worst day of my life. And I was beside myself. I didn’t know how to deal. While I was standing still, the world around me continued. Time kept going.
Death changes a person. It puts life in perspective. It forces you to reexamine life. You are really shown that life is indeed short and not guaranteed. We get into this groove where we take life for granted. How many times have you said, “Oh, I’ll just do that tomorrow.” Honestly, none of us knows if we even have a tomorrow. So we have to enjoy the NOW.
My dad always looked forward to his retirement, which to him was the finale of his life. He could finally relax and travel with his wife, my step-mom. They could eventually move to South Carolina, live on a farm and spend their days gardening and relaxing. However, he never got to that finale. He passed away while at work, as a Greyhound driver, while on his way to Syracuse. He saved 24 lives that day on the bus by pulling over the moment he didn’t feel well. He died on the side of the road on the New Jersey Turnpike, sitting on the ground, leaning on the bus.
So how do you deal with the worst day of your life? Simply, one day at a time. All we can do is the best that we can, one day at a time. When you look at it that way, it is not as overwhelming. You will be amazed at your own strength. I know many people were in awe of how I managed to deliver my dad’s eulogy at his funeral and get through that whole service without falling apart. But I did.
I have days where I feel like my heart is being ripped from my chest. Many times, out of habit, I have grabbed my phone, ready to dial his number and then I remember that he is gone. It took me nine months to be able to look at a picture of him for longer than 5 seconds. But as each day passes, it got a little easier to accomplish these things. I just wake up every morning and make the choice to live my day out to its fullest.
Now don't get me wrong. The pain is still there. It'll probably never go away. I will never be the same. But honestly, living my life one day at a time helps me to cope. It heals me a little each day. I'm not standing still, dwelling on him being gone. I am working towards accepting that he is gone but doing so one day at a time so that it doesn't overwhelm me to the point that I will just break down.
You have to remember that even when you are standing still (like I mentioned above), life still goes on. And it can pass you by if you keep standing still. If you do that, you’re doing a disservice to yourself and any other life you touch. We all touch a life, whether we do it intentionally or not. And when you come to the end of your journey, your life will reflect who you were. Your life is your story. You write the chapters with the steps you take on your journey, every decision you make and how you choose to live your life.
There is light at the end of the tunnel. And you will emerge from that dark tunnel, stronger than before. You have to. Because you still have a life to live. And having a life to live is such a gift. Every day you make the choice on how you live your life. You choose to get out of bed. You choose to go outside. You choose to live. I usually reflect for a little bit when I wake up in the morning. I think of the day ahead and make a decision to get some things done, be productive and also treat myself to some little things that make me happy. It could be taking a walk on the boardwalk or having a mocha iced coffee. The little things can add up to big things and they help in boosting your spirit as you cope with the pain.
Even if you don’t get out of bed, you are still alive. This is what was on my mind those first few mornings after my dad passed away. I did not want to get out of bed. But no matter how hard I tried, God was telling me that I have to live. Now if I wanted to live it from under my blankets, that was my choice. But did I want to be known as someone who just stayed in bed and did not live life to its fullest? No, I did not.
My step-mom said something to me when she called me on the 1-yr anniversary. She said one of the most important lessons she learned from my dad’s death is to stop focusing on the finale of our lives and instead enjoy the journey while we’re striving to get there. She and my dad had planned to go to Europe within the next few years. It was my dad’s dream to see Europe.
This reminded me of how happy and interested he was to hear of my own travel tales. He was so proud that his little girl was brave enough to travel the world most of the time by herself. He saw places through my eyes and stories. One of the greatest things that gave him joy was seeing me live my life to the fullest. I think it inspired him to want to see the world. It really saddens me that he did not get to see Europe because he was too focused on his finale and not fully enjoying his journey.
In order for me to honor my dad and his memory, I have to live the best life I can. We should all strive for that. We should all make great stories to tell and inspire. We need to enjoy our journey. And we should all try to deal with the forks in the road, the monkey wrenches thrown our way and the worst days of our lives...one day at a time.
I love you, Daddy. Thank you for being YOU.
Daniel Cruz
November 10, 1949 – April 10, 2011
Tuesday, April 10, 2012
The Frugal Files: Spring is the Time to Grow Your Green
Friday, April 6, 2012
Living Up to My Size!! Big!!
Yes, people will underestimate you, but YOU don’t have to underestimate you!! That is NOT your reality and it is certainly NOT your destiny!!
Wednesday, April 4, 2012
Mid-Week Must Have: Queen Grace Announces Vieta Handbags
We received the following from our friends at the Queen Grace Collection:
"Introducing the popular and ultra stylish handbag line by Vieta Accessories!
Vieta handbags are 100% sustainable, eco friendly, luxe looking, super stylish and the best part? They are a fabulous compliment to our gorgeous QG spring color palettes and we think these luxe bags are priced perfectly just for YOU.
This special, limited edition series will be running through Spring 2012 so get your QG Vieta bag now - they just may sell out before you blink your pretty little curvy girl eye!"
Redeem code QUEENIE25 and enjoy 25% off your 1st order! Free Shipping for all orders over $100.00! They ship worldwide & Queen Grace is proudly made In the USA!
I am loving the Allie Clutch and the Honor Handbag! Do you have a fave?
Have you checked out the Vieta Accessories line from the Queen Grace Collection? It's available now at www.queengrace.com!
Tuesday, April 3, 2012
The Frugal Files: Using Store Reward Programs to Maximize Savings
Monday, April 2, 2012
All Eyez On...:Igigi Spring 2012 Look Book
"My design sensibility has always had a vintage vibe to it, so this season I decided to go all the way and just have a blast with stylistics. I took the old covers of Vogue magazines from early 20’s all the way trough 50’s and created homage to the history of style.” Said Yuliya Raquel, Founder, Creative Director and Lead Designer in a press release.
Daffodil Love Dress $122 |
Vintage Floral Dress |
Lempika Dress $128.00 |
Vintage Polka Dot Dress |
A Note From Ms. Aja B.: We Want to Hear From You!
One question that I have been repeatedly asked is "How can I be in Belle-Noir Magazine?" Usually, the question comes from an aspiring plus size model. But every now and again, one of our readers will send us the question, spurred by an eagerness to see more women like themselves on our pages. Our Editorial Team wanted a way for our readers--plus size women of Color like yourselves--to tell us more about themselves and tell their stories.
On Monday, April 2, 2012, we will be introducing our new "Be Featured in Belle-Noir!" tab, your one stop to find information on everything from being a model in one of our photo shoots to being part of an upcoming feature article (see our "Love Like This" article in our January/February 2012 issue as an example).
Belle-Noir Magazine is nothing without our readers, and we are eager to shine the spotlight on all that is big, beautiful, and all about you! Click here to check out the opportunities that are currently open and let us know what you think!
Here's to seeing you on the pages of Belle-Noir Magazine soon!
Peace & Love,
Ms. Aja B.